Last night I was watching “Insider” (yeah, yeah, I know, trash TV, but we only have basic cable and nothing else remotely interesting was on and I had to fold laundry) and of course they were all in an upheaval about Christie Brinkley’s husband cheating on her. And one correspondent remarked (after mentioning that Halle Berry’s boyfriend had cheated on her), “If Christie Brinkley’s husband and Halle Berry’s boyfriend cheat on THEM, what hope is there for the rest of us?”
That brought me up short. So basically, drop-dead-Hollywood-beautiful women shouldn’t have cheating husbands? The reason men cheat on their wives is because they don’t fit some sort of attractiveness ideal (or that was the thought)? Not from what I can see. What they are also saying is that it is the WOMAN’S fault when her husband cheats. Now, I know that sometimes there are contributing circumstances where both spouses have a role to play in what went wrong, but to make a comment that a man is less likely to cheat because his wife is a gorgeous model completely overlooks an important factor. It is the husband who has the problem, not his wife. When men cheat it is because of issues they have, not because of a problem their wives have. Even if they blame their wives for whatever reason, it is not their fault. It is the person cheating (ok whether this be a husband or a wife, I know I am focusing on husbands, but that’s because of the remark the correspondent made. I would have to wonder if she would have said the same thing if the roles had been reversed).
Hollywood continues to promote the idea that women are only attractive or desirable if they fit some sort of mold. I prefer the Dove commercials and I prefer the natural beauty of women and men. Being ourselves. I personally don’t think Christie Brinkley or Halle Berry or any of these women they call the most beautiful women in the world, are more attractive than women anywhere else.
And another thing, it does a disservice to men, telling us that the only, or at least main thing important to them in a woman is how she looks, at the exclusion of anything else, or at least that everything else is secondary to that primal visual attraction. Yes I know, men are visual creatures. But to say that they are ONLY visual, or are that shallow as to put more importance on looks than anything else is to treat them like brainless dunderheads.