Can I lust after my wife?

In Matt 5:28 and D&C 63:16, we read that if we look a woman to lust after her, we have committed adultery in principle, if not in deed.

Now, I get the idea that if I look at a woman to lust after a woman who isn’t my wife, it could potentially lead to thoughts or attraction, which itself could lead to more serious and complex issues.

That being said, both passages do not say “look on another woman to lust after her”. They specifically state “look on a woman to lust after her”.

Assuming this indefinite article is used on purpose, does that mean if I lust after my wife, that I commit adultery in my heart? Is this scripture more about respecting women and relationships than it is about warning against infidelity?

Laws of the Land

Well now that I have edited this I will repost ;)

On Sunday in our Gospel Doctrine class, we discussed the laws of the land versus the laws of God. I asked the question “If the laws of the land go against what you know to be the laws of God, and He requires you to follow the laws of the land, which do you follow? Answers were given about Egypt, slavery, days of Joseph Smith etc. I kept saying that the days of Joseph Smith pertained to trying to write the constitution and give religious and personal freedom to all. None of the examples that were given (IMHO) had anything to do with us as Canadians living today.

As there are always such great answers here I thought I would post my question here and see if I can get an answer that would satisfy me. Thanks

Why it’s a good thing I am no longer elders quorum president

I had an experience today in elders quorum that confirmed not only was it right for me to no longer be elders quorum president, but that the person who replaced me was the right person for the job.

We meet for elders quorum on the stage. In December, this means a week or two when decorations for the ward parties remain on the stage because no one wants to put them away. This used to frustrate me every year. Mostly because I was the one who had to move them out of the way to make room for the chairs, table, and chalkboard.

Sure enough, when we walked on the stage for our quorum meeting this afternoon, there was the Christmas tree and rocking chair. Again, I rolled my eyes in exasperation, but I was glad it wasn’t me who had to move everything.

But our quorum president surprised me.

He plugged in the tree, and turned on the lights. He had arranged the chairs in a semi-cirlce (there were only 6 of us; many stayed home because of this weekend’s blizzard) around the tree, and pulled up the rocking chair to the front of the class and beside the tree.

It was a really festive, cozy touch, and I think it really made a difference. It certainly was a participative class.

Some people complain and grumble; others make lemonade.