I’m 20. And I’m worried I’ll never get married. Help? at Mormon Matters

Dear Ask Mormon Girl:

I am sure I will never find a Mormon guy who will make me happy, to marry in the temple. I am 20 years old, I’m not out of time, but I have a lot of problems with church and marriage in general. I was told all my life to accept it as the truth with no questioning, and that if you do everything “right” then you’ll be happy no matter what. I found that my parents never really were happy and when my dad came out of the closet, and my parents divorced, it proved me right, that doing what’s “right” doesn’t make you “happy.” I feel pressure to date only guys who are Mormons even though a Mormon guy wouldn’t understand me very well. I don’t have a very good “testimony” of the church, but honestly I would still like to get married in the temple, to an upstanding guy. I’m just not sure how to get there without denying my true feelings about men who think they’re “over” their wives, who expect their wives to fit the homemaker mold, and my feelings that marriage can’t work even, and especially, when founded on the teachings of the Mormon church.

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Women in the Book of Mormon

A few nights ago, we were reading the Book of Mormon as a family and discussing Alma the Younger. My husband said something about Alma the Younger being the son of Alma who believed the words of Abinadi. One of my sons asked, “Well, who was his mom? What was her name?” And I (with just a tinge of bitterness) answered, “We don’t know. She was a woman”.

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Jesus, Once of Humble Birth

Yesterday, our ward sang Jesus, Once of Humble Birth for our Sacrament Hymn.

Generally, I really try to pay attention to pay attention to the words we sing, so I can get something personal out of the hymn. I often fail at it though. Yesterday, I succeeded.

I really like the contrast used throughout the hymn (e.g. humility vs glorification), but there were a couple of instances that impressed me for some reason.

For example,

Once rejected by his own—Now their king he shall become.

Isn’t it ironic that the very people who rejected Jesus as their King will one day be his subjects?

Another line:

Once forsaken, left alone

This line really struck me. His apostles abandoned him; his father forsook him. Perhaps this one struck me as it did because of parallels to my own experience.

Finally, the last two lines of the hymn:

Once all things he meekly bore—
But he now will bear no more

What a fitting end to this hymn. The hymn is all about Jesus’s triumph over mortality, over grief, pain, blood, tears, crucifixion, and rejection. These last two lines enapsulate that entire idea.

And the hymn gives us hope that one day we too will triumph all.

Was Ammon a type of Christ?

I have been reading in Mosiah 7 for the last week or so, and while I was reading verses 14 and 15 today, the thought hit me that in some ways Ammon, the person sent to find Limhi (or rather his grandfather and the people who followed him, was similar to Jesus.

For example, in verse 14, Limhi says that it is because of Ammon, he is now full of joy.

And now, it came to pass that after Limhi had heard the words of Ammon, he was exceedingly glad, and said: Now, I know of a surety that my brethren who were in the land of Zarahemla are yet alive. And now, I will rejoice; and on the morrow I will cause that my people shall rejoice also.
Likewise, has Jesus turned our sorrow into joy (see John 16:20).

Limhi sees Ammon, as shown in verse 15, as a deliverer for his people, who had been in bondage to the Lamanites.

For behold, we are in bondage to the Lamanites, and are taxed with a tax which is grievous to be borne. And now, behold, our brethren will deliver us out of our bondage, or out of the hands of the Lamanites, and we will be their slaves; for it is better that we be slaves to the Nephites than to pay tribute to the king of the Lamanites.

Likewise, Jesus is our deliverer. (See 1 Thes. 1: 10; 2 Ne 11:5). Not only does he deliver us from physical death and God’s wrath, but he delivers us from our own burdens (see Matt 11:28–29).

My ward is going to be translated for this…

This week our Relief Society lesson was combined with the Young Women in the ward. On the table stood three large, framed photographs of our three recently graduated Laurels. Next to those were three identical stacks of books, each tied with a ribbon. On the side table were many platters of sliced sweet breads ready to be served. Ladies, welcome to the awesomeness that is Relief Society.

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