Loving others as ourselves

In Sacrament meeting this past Sunday, one of the speakers brought up what Jesus referred to as the second great commandment

“And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” (Matt 22:39).

He mentioned that the key to loving others is being able to love ourselves first, which is a good point and one I had not seriously considered before.

If we are too hard on ourselves (don’t like the way we look, or our physical limitations, or lack of abilities), then what does that say about our ability to love others? If we hate ourselves, then does that mean our love for others will mean too little?