There’s a gust post over at Feminist Mormon Housewives called Women Married to Porn Users. There’s some good discussion, but when Mary and I had a bit of a discussion about it last night, we wondered if this is a man’s problem?
It seems that the Church always focuses pornography talks to men, that recovery programs are designed for men, that discussions revolve around wives helping men.
But I wonder, do women get addicted to porn? I admit that I do not know a single woman who has looked at porn, let alone been addicted to it. For that matter, I have never heard of a woman being addicted to porn. Yet, somehow, I cannot seem to fathom that women do not deal with the same addictions.
If there are women who are addicted to porn, why is it we never hear about it? Is there a societal stigma attached to such women?
In the inaugarl episode of the Mormon Archipelago Podcast, Elisabeth of BCC reviewed the book Confronting Pornography: A Guide to Prevention and Recovery for Individuals, Loved Ones and Leaders. In part, she quoted the following from page 153 of the book:
It?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢s not uncommon for a wife to believe that if she were more attractive, more alluring, if she were ?¢‚Ç¨?ìenough for him?¢‚Ç¨¬ù, he wouldn?¢‚Ç¨‚Ñ¢t turn to these perfect images of other women.
I do not know if every woman faced with her husband’s addiction to pornography asks herself these question. If that is the case (I can only assume the doctor and social workers who authored the book have done their research), why? Why do women feel pornography is about attractiveness? Why do they feel their level of attractiveness is the solution? Or are women correct in these assertion.
[It was a good first podcast, by the way. I normally find RT’s podcasting style boring, but he did a good job here.]